Thursday, April 26, 2007

Finding the Right Person

Almost everyone tries to find the right person our own way, I did. We forget that its not about “finding” the right person, but “being” the right person.

Read the book of Ruth, and as you do notice how she found the right person... and how the right person found her.

"But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness; and all these things shall be added to you” (Matthew 6:33).

Wednesday, April 11, 2007

“…but it didn’t mean anything.”

The young man recounted a problem to the old but discerning preacher: “Pastor, this girl won’t leave me alone. She thinks she is in love with me.” “And why should she think that” his counselor rhetorically queried. “I didn’t promise her anything…. I did kiss her a few times, but it didn’t mean anything.” “It didn’t mean anything to whom?” questioned the old but discerning preacher.

Tuesday, April 10, 2007

To Speak Tenderly to Her…

The following is a passage from Judges 19. It is the story of a daughter, a father who deeply loved her, and the man who spoke “tenderly to her.”

Now it came about in those days, when there was no king in Israel, that there was a certain Levite staying in the remote part of the hill country of Ephraim, who took a concubine for himself from Bethlehem in Judah. But his concubine played the harlot against him, and she went away from him to her father’s house in Bethlehem in Judah, and was there for a period of four months. Then her husband arose and went after her to speak tenderly to her in order to bring her back, taking with him his servant and a pair of donkeys. So she brought him into her father’s house, and when the girl’s father saw him, he was glad to meet him. His father-in-law, the girl’s father, detained him; and he remained with him three days. So they ate and drank and lodged there. Now on the fourth day they got up early in the morning, and he prepared to go; and the girl’s father said to his son-in-law, “Sustain yourself with a piece of bread, and afterward you may go.” So both of them sat down and ate and drank together; and the girl’s father said to the man, “Please be willing to spend the night, and let your heart be merry.” Then the man arose to go, but his father-in-law urged him so that he spent the night there again. On the fifth day he arose to go early in the morning, and the girl’s father said, “Please sustain yourself, and wait until afternoon”; so both of them ate. When the man arose to go along with his concubine and servant, his father-in-law, the girl’s father, said to him, “Behold now, the day has drawn to a close; please spend the night. Lo, the day is coming to an end; spend the night here that your heart may be merry. Then tomorrow you may arise early for your journey so that you may go home.”
But the man was not willing to spend the night, so he arose and departed and came to a place opposite Jebus (that is, Jerusalem). And there were with him a pair of saddled donkeys; his concubine also was with him. When they were near Jebus, the day was almost gone; and the servant said to his master, “Please come, and let us turn aside into this city of the Jebusites and spend the night in it.” However, his master said to him, “We will not turn aside into the city of foreigners who are not of the sons of Israel; but we will go on as far as Gibeah.” He said to his servant, “Come and let us approach one of these places; and we will spend the night in Gibeah or Ramah.” So they passed along and went their way, and the sun set on them near Gibeah which belongs to Benjamin. They turned aside there in order to enter and lodge in Gibeah. When they entered, they sat down in the open square of the city, for no one took them into his house to spend the night.
Then behold, an old man was coming out of the field from his work at evening. Now the man was from the hill country of Ephraim, and he was staying in Gibeah, but the men of the place were Benjamites. And he lifted up his eyes and saw the traveler in the open square of the city; and the old man said, “Where are you going, and where do you come from?” He said to him, “We are passing from Bethlehem in Judah to the remote part of the hill country of Ephraim, for I am from there, and I went to Bethlehem in Judah. But I am now going to my house, and no man will take me into his house. “Yet there is both straw and fodder for our donkeys, and also bread and wine for me, your maidservant, and the young man who is with your servants; there is no lack of anything.” The old man said, “Peace to you. Only let me take care of all your needs; however, do not spend the night in the open square.” So he took him into his house and gave the donkeys fodder, and they washed their feet and ate and drank.
While they were celebrating, behold, the men of the city, certain worthless fellows, surrounded the house, pounding the door; and they spoke to the owner of the house, the old man, saying, “Bring out the man who came into your house that we may have relations with him.” Then the man, the owner of the house, went out to them and said to them, “No, my fellows, please do not act so wickedly; since this man has come into my house, do not commit this act of folly. “Here is my virgin daughter and his concubine. Please let me bring them out that you may ravish them and do to them whatever you wish. But do not commit such an act of folly against this man.” But the men would not listen to him. So the man seized his concubine and brought her out to them; and they raped her and abused her all night until morning, then let her go at the approach of dawn. As the day began to dawn, the woman came and fell down at the doorway of the man’s house where her master was, until full daylight.


When her master arose in the morning and opened the doors of the house and went out to go on his way, then behold, his concubine was lying at the doorway of the house with her hands on the threshold. He said to her, “Get up and let us go,” but there was no answer. Then he placed her on the donkey; and the man arose and went to his home. When he entered his house, he took a knife and laid hold of his concubine and cut her in twelve pieces, limb by limb, and sent her throughout the territory of Israel. All who saw it said, “Nothing like this has ever happened or been seen from the day when the sons of Israel came up from the land of Egypt to this day. Consider it, take counsel and speak up!”

Sunday, April 8, 2007

Crossing the Line

Boy girl friendships are special, fun, exciting… if they are friendships and nothing more. It is so wonderful to have friends, friends you can joke with, be yourself with, really like and care about; friends that care about you too.

But there are times when a friendship becomes something more. This is something wonderful when it begins the course that eventually unites two who love Him in marriage, but something less than wonderful when His Spirit is not obeyed. In either situation, when a look or a touch or a kiss or a hug makes a friendship something more, that friendship will never again be the same, although you may so very much want it to be. Like that silky soft powder that, once added to water, becomes hard as stone, when the fine line between friendship and something more is crossed, nothing will ever again be the same.

Saturday, April 7, 2007

He came to himself

I can’t help but wonder if the concluding “parable” of Luke 15 is actually more than a parable, perhaps the story of a son and his salvation. Notice he was spiritually “dead” (Luke 15:24). Notice, counter to Calvinist claims, “… he came to himself…” (Luke 15:17). Notice his free will: “I will arise and go to my Father... [I] will say unto him…” (Luke 15:18). Notice his confession: “… Father, I have sinned against heaven, and in thy sight…” (Luke 15:21). Notice he did a lot for someone who is totally unable to respond in faith and repentance, something a Calvinist calls “dead.”
And he said, A certain man had two sons: And the younger of them said to his father, Father, give me the portion of goods that falleth to me. And he divided unto them his living. And not many days after the younger son gathered all together, and took his journey into a far country, and there wasted his substance with riotous living. And when he had spent all, there arose a mighty famine in that land; and he began to be in want. And he went and joined himself to a citizen of that country; and he sent him into his fields to feed swine. And he would fain have filled his belly with the husks that the swine did eat: and no man gave unto him. And when he came to himself, he said, How many hired servants of my father’s have bread enough and to spare, and I perish with hunger! I will arise and go to my father, and will say unto him, Father, I have sinned against heaven, and before thee, And am no more worthy to be called
thy son: make me as one of thy hired servants. And he arose, and came to his father. But when he was yet a great way off, his father saw him, and had compassion, and ran, and fell on his neck, and kissed him. And the son said unto him, Father, I have sinned against heaven, and in thy sight, and am no more worthy to be called thy son. But the father said to his servants, Bring forth the best robe, and put it on him; and put a ring on his hand, and shoes on his feet: And bring hither the fatted calf, and kill it; and let us eat, and be merry: For this my son was dead, and is alive again; he was lost, and is found (Luke 15:11-24).

A Doctrine of Men

There is a doctrine of men that is once again coming into vogue after centuries of quiet gestation. It is among the most hideous of the cults because it has the respectability of the "spiritually" and "intellectually" elite, claiming for itself the banner of Reformation truth. And yet it mimics the popular doctrine of Unconditional Love that also teaches that man must do nothing to be saved. Both the doctrines of Calvinism and Unconditional Love forget that there is a "condition":

God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life” (John 3:16).